Everyone’s life is governed by an internal code of conduct. You know how you’ve heard of the “bro code,” okay please pretend to have heard of it if you haven’t because that is another story all together, like who are your friends? where do you hang, what do you read?!!!! Anyway so there is  this set of “rules” that dudes follow on how to act with each other, Well, that’s exactly what girl code is. It’s a set of unspoken rules that all females are expected to follow. And while that sounds rigid and annoying, it’s actually pretty great.I guess the rules, if written, would read something like;

• Thou shall not slag one off behind ones back.
• Thou shall not borrow ones clothes without asking.
• Thou shall not shag a friends current / ex.

You get the drift?  Of course, girl code comes with a long set of both written and unwritten rules, but I think some rules are more important than others.

For starter’s , don’t neglect your friends once you get a boyfriend. And if you do, don’t just return to your friends after you and your love have broken up and expect everything to be as normal again. chic please !, that’s not how things work. This is not to say that you must break up, even if it works out, there is no value in losing friendships for a man. I know I don’t need to remind any of you that you need permission to date a friend’s ex or former interest, if you must date them at all.

Do not hate on other women (not for their looks or their success). Ladies, why do we even do this? There is no reason to talk badly about a girl that you saw across the room, no reason at all. She is not trying to steal your friends, or your man, or your job, she’s doing her own thing, now walk over, introduce yourself and the two of you could be best friends in no time. Or just mind your business and leave her alone.We need to stop treating success — whether it’s at work or in relationships — as if it is a zero-sum game. There is plenty of room for all of us on this earth and even when we must compete against each other for the same thing, let’s keep it classy, and should we lose, endure it gracefully.

Presence: Unless you are deathly sick or are about to win the lottery,  if your friend has been dumped, you have to be there. If you’re a really good friend, you’ll be there with pizza and wine sometimes even Chocolate. Also if your friend has recently been dumped, rejected, or deemed legitimately miserable for any reason, they get a weekend of doing whatever they want with you as the babysitter.I’m not saying you should let your friend commit any crimes but you have to understand that they’re going through a hard time and just need to release. So suck it up, and let them do just that.

Honesty: This is the best policy for “how do i look?” Sometimes when I see some women’s unclean underarms or their bleached skin color or their outfits, I wonder whose friends let them walk out like that. This is where I have to give cheers to all the  girls that have their girls’ backs— they would never let you leave the house looking like a fashion victim. Seriously, what does it cost you to tell a sister she has lipstick on her teeth? or that the bra size she chose doesn’t flatter her ? or that her one eyebrow has been erased ? Tell the truth ladies, tell the truth.

Offer sympathies during that time of the month.Whether it’s offering a stranger a tampon or being sensitive to a friend during her time of the month if she needs it, the golden rule shall be exercised to the fullest extent in this area.Even if you are mortal enemies, do a period check on a sister’s behind  and ascertain that her pants are still good.

ALWAYS help other girls escape unwanted attention from guys.This can be as simple as dancing with another girl at a party or as difficult as pretending to be her friend in a public place (totally done that, by the way), in order for her to escape from that awkward conversation she is stuck in. Most of the time, it won’t cost you anything but a minute so please let’s help each other out because some guys unfortunately can’t get a clue

Its okay to say NO. I do not need to belabor this , you all know what i mean. Also , reconcile yourself with the fact that it is okay to be alone sometimes. Do not ever settle for a guy because you feel alone, when the feeling wears out, you will want to shoot yourself for making a lousy choice (no offence guys )

Secrets: The guys code states that, ” if a bro asks another bro to keep a secret, he shall take that secret to his grave ” so ladies , what happens to us that propels us to share our girlfriends secrets to people who don’t wanna know? Don’t be a tell-tale!

But speaking of this code thingi, there are some things i don’t click. For example its okay for a guy or a girl to date everybody else except your sister/ brother , as in??? i thought it would be nice if your buddy hooked up with your relative , like it would be a great thing because he/she is already a friend of the family anyway so a promotion to in-law  wouldn’t hurt,,,or so i think,,,,but people will hate you, block you, in fact plot death for you if you dare approach their brother’s or sisters , and they are your best friends by the way,,,,,hehehehehe this code thingi,,,,aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.